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the hidden equation

10/2/2010

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Dear Traveler,

I believe what I’m about to write is so important it deserves a post of its own. I hope you’ll agree.

My primary physician, a trusted, lifelong friend and person of great integrity, offered me the most helpful gem of cancer treatment wisdom I could ever have hoped for. I want to share it with as many people as I can. I had just shared my post-op revelation with him (please see post #2, below), and told him I was now open to considering chemotherapy. Here, to the best of my memory, is his response:

“Chemo is not for everyone. But if you think you have it in you to ever consider it, even as a last resort if all else fails, the best approach is to just go ahead and do it first. You’ve already had surgery, and the best outcomes occur when the window of time between surgery and the first treatment is as small as possible. When people wait and use chemo as a last resort, it’s usually ineffective, and it’s because that critical moment when its efficacy would have been greatest has long passed.”  (I've since learned one of the reasons for this:  primary tumours often secrete substances which mitigate the growth of smaller, younger tumours, preventing them from "stealing" circulation and nourishment from the larger growths. Once those primary tumours are removed through surgery, that mitigating force is no longer there, leading to a sudden "blossoming" of the smaller, remote tumors and micro-tumours.)

At first I felt stunned, then grief-stricken. So many people I’ve known had followed exactly the route my doctor described, trying numerous other healing methods first, and leaving the fearsome spectre of chemo to deal with later “only if necessary.” How many thousands of people have been deprived of the opportunity to make an educated decision based on this equation? How many of them would have been happy to follow the wise counsel I’d received, if they’d been offered it it? How many may have, in fact, lost their lives on this point alone? In all my time as an R.N., not a single one of my cancer patients has ever mentioned this concept when relaying discussions with their physicians regarding treatment options.

More conversation ensued, but the point had clearly been made. I’ll always be profoundly grateful for my doctor friend’s advice. It guided my decisions, and come what may, I will never have any regrets about my choices; I will know I have done my very best to meet this challenge face on, eyes open. Surgery and chemotherapy are forceful and immediate solutions when such is needed. If (o happy thought) they do their job and buy me a future here, I will have lots of time to repair the damage done using the natural, time-honoured methods I have always embraced and trusted.

I wish the very same good fortune for you. I wish the same for everyone. Please share this with as many people as you can… we all know someone who is dealing with cancer.

With love,
rosemary

Postscript: Some cancers are very slow growing, and when detected early, can be eradicated or managed very well using a naturopathic approach. I have also witnessed complete healing using prayer alone. I am not advocating for one treatment option over another - only for educated decisions. You and I will find the greatest success in that, and by following the guidance that speaks in our own hearts.

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Melinda link
10/2/2010 09:35:08 am

Dear Rosemary,

Thank you for your beautiful, insightful posts; a blessing for anyone who reads them!
I've often wondered how I would face such choices, coming from a similar holistic background and life-style.
Sending you Love,

Melinda

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Anne
10/2/2010 11:32:30 am

Dear Rosemary,
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and beautiful spirit! I have now shared this with a good friend, who's dad is undergoing cancer surgery and may have to confront the same issues. Sending you all my prayers for a complete recovery.
Love and Peace,
Anne

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Lucy Bowers
10/2/2010 01:20:25 pm

Thanks Rosemary,
I await the call for my first appointment with an oncologist I have yet to meet. My surgery was a success but follow up treatment options I was not very open to until I read your blog just now. I do believe the words of your physician friend are important words for sharing and I am pleased to have them shared with me at this time.
I hope you are doing well since the third chemo and know that you continue to be in my prayers.
Love Lucy

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Joanne Crabtree link
10/2/2010 04:03:56 pm

Darling Rosey,
I'm so happy to see you are managing to post every day now. It's great to hear your thoughts again.
Much love to you and your household.
Joanne (Crabtree)

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Sheila
10/2/2010 11:07:55 pm

Rosemary, I'm so sorry to learn of your illness! But that ovarian cancer has a fearsome opponent in you. Thank you for the blog with your (as always) thoughtful, clear, and helpful reflections on your experience with this darn cancer and options for fighting it. Sending my prayers and good wishes, Sheila

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rosemary
12/9/2010 06:50:16 am

thank you, thank you everyone. you bring such meaning to this little blog endeavor.

wishing you all many blessings - rosemary

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